walking out of a relationship

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When he wished to leave his past behind and be in exile; he thought he could send a message to the world that he existed.

Well, does it ever matter if we existed or not? We never matter how well we have lived our life or more. Throughout the journey we tried to stand on our own, no matter how difficult it was. A little indifference is anathema to us. Then what do we expect? When we part in a relationship, we cherish the world to take note of this. We never feel to be slighted or ignored. This is how all of us or at least most of us think of our relationship. We rarely admit guilt, and consider we are more wronged than have done. Yet is it always a fact? I fear it is not.

I remember a May night, when my father died. During his life he fought a long battle, against the system, relationships and also against failing health. He was not a man whom many remembered, nor did he think that after his death he would be remembered as a crusader, for he fought a limited duel. His death was sudden, but in death also was left a painless wrinkled smile around his form. From then I felt if you wish nothing you would never be in great pain. When I see we sulk and even shed tears and sigh at the slightest disrespect and cold shouldering, I hope we could be a little less sensitive so that we remain unmoved. Our parents were more prudent than us, for them life was less a joy walk and more a struggle.They had a strong faith in determinism and however true or untrue was that they remain steadfast in their pursuit.

When we decide to walk out of a relationship, we desire so either at a spur or a deliberated brooding. When we do so and find that the reciprocity of brashness is forthcoming, we are relaxed. When we suffer after walking out we have a sense of guilt. If our action hurts the other party and we are oblivious of the pain we should consider why at all we enter to a relationship where we bring suffering. Human relationship is to be endured and it should never be a moonwalk.

I had no intention to treatise the facets of relationship, but have a sincere desire that we should not consider belonging  as momentary and as a transit- shelter. Relationships are achieved through painstaking and meditative effort. Rarely is it accomplished in play acting. If we cannot invest in a relationship, we have no business to enter there. When relationships are for money, glory, sex or sluggish company, it is better not to be in it.If I love I love with no albatross around my conscience.

Enduring a perfect relationship needs two mutually supplementing mindset. To be in a companionship needs stoic nihilism to suffer slight and be in ecstasy. Lead a relationship and feel how wonderful it is that we could live it till the natural end. And also never feel sorry if you have not ditched trust. Walk out as silently as you could if it could not be persisted. Well, if a relationship falters and fails despite best efforts, and the neglect could no more be taken further, quit and relent with no rancour.